Last week my husband had to travel for work. Since I loathe staying home without him, I went to stay with my parents for a week. It was the longest we have been apart since our daughter was born, 3 years ago. You know the old saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder”? I am pretty sure we all already know the truth of that statement, but I believe part of that is realizing the things we take for granted…the things we should appreciate.
A while back my sister-in-law told me about a smartphone app called Avacado. It is an app for couples. It features a communication feed, personalized emoticons (my favorite), kisses, hugs and shared “to do” lists. Nick and I have been using it for about a month now and we LOVE it. It has been so fun to keep up with him throughout the day with this app. Sometimes, if I haven’t heard from him and have been super busy myself I will just send him a “hug” or a funny picture to let him know I am thinking about him. He does the same thing with me. If you have a smartphone…and a husband…I highly recommend this app. Thanks, Beck! 🙂
During his trip we didn’t have much time to talk on the phone because he was traveling with a co-worker and customers most of the day. I missed him more than I imagined I would. About the third day into the trip I started thinking about all of the things that I missed about him and decided to let him know. I created a new “to-do” list, but it wasn’t filled with things I had to do. I titled it “Things I Love About My Husband.” I added about twenty things to the list and he got a notification right away. He loved it! I added to the list as things came to mind, so the list grew quite a bit throughout the week. As sentimental as I was creating the list, we had so much fun with it the rest of the week. If he really liked something I said, he would star it. Later he told me it was the sweetest most encouraging thing I had ever done for him. In fact, he is the one who suggested I tell you all about it.
I have to tell you that I am not always trying to think of ways to encourage my husband. I wish I were… When I look back on the day, after the kids are put in bed, I realize that so much of myself was given to them and so little is left for my husband. When I stop and think about it, I justify putting my children first by thinking about the needy stage they are in or thinking about how little time I have with them to influence their little lives… and those are both true things… but they need to know that their daddy is the most important person in my life. I want my daughter to learn how to be a blessing to her husband. I want my son to know what to look for in a wife. Neither one of those things can happen until I appreciate the wonderful man God has blessed my life with. I know we all take things for granted, but while we have time and opportunity, let’s let our husbands know how much they are appreciated.
Love and Blessings,