Wow! It’s been a very busy few months for me! Probably the busiest I have been in a long time. My biggest event was the birth of my third child, Evelyn Grace. She was born January 21 weighing in at 7lbs. 13 oz. and 20 in. long. She has brought us so much happiness and so much love. My other 2 children have fallen in love with her as well. I love to watch how they interact with her. Especially my 2-year-old son. He’ll come up and just rub his little forehead on her tiny little head and run away with a big smile. He just loves her. My 6-year-old daughter is a little mother hen. Always wanting to help out with her. She is sooo good with her. I really don’t know what I would do without her. Having an older child that can help when you have a newborn is just so nice. She has run here and there for me and with such a sweet spirit too.
I get gestational high blood pressure with my pregnancies. With this one though, it really put me down. I went the whole first week home from the hospital without any medication for my blood pressure. I was scheduled for a 1 week blood pressure check. That week was the longest week of my life! 🙂 I was beyond fatigue. I just could not leave the couch. All of my problems aside, the point that I want to get out is that while, yes, I am very thankful for my daughter that was able to help me when I needed it most, I started feeling guilty almost for asking so much from her. Yes, my post partum emotions probably really escalated my feelings on this but at the time I felt really guilty about how many times I have asked so much of her and yet had failed to actually spend time WITH her.
I tend to get so busy and caught up with every day stuff that just has to be done. I have the personality that it’s either all or nothing and I am still trying to learn how to go with the flow a little more. In my mind, everything in the house has to be cleaned, all meals made and school all done and everyone bathed and in pj’s before I can sit down and play with my children. I am still learning that it’s o-k if I sit down and play cars for 5 minutes with my son or sit and read or play a game with my daughter for a little bit EVEN if everything is not all done.
As I see my daughter growing up (will be 7 in three days) and I really saw how grown-up she was as she helped me during this time of having a newborn, I think back to how much time and how many special moments I let slip by because I was too busy taking care OF them that I failed to spend time WITH them.
I think that having my third child just really made me realize how quickly they grow up. I want my children to remember their Mommy taking time to spend with them. They are going to be grown and gone before I know it. I show my love by doing for them, taking care of them, baking their favorites, keeping them clean but many times I fail to take the time to spend time. We make time for other things (you fill in the blank) Why not make time for our children? I’m sure we all do this to some extent but I am just wanting to encourage us to do a little more.
Our time is one of the most precious gifts we can give our children and probably the one thing they will remember the most.
Let’s be more intentional about making time to spend time.