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Comparing Moms

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You’ve been there. You click online and scroll through your Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. There is your mom-friend, boasting a new ‘do’ and a Starbucks. You can’t remember the last time you had a Starbucks, and your split ends tell you it’s been at least that long since you had a trim.

One friend’s living room just got a face-lift and it looks like it’s out of Pottery Barn. How can she keep that couch so white? She has more kids than you!

Another friend posts pictures of her 6-course gourmet, gluten-free, low-calorie, organic, hand-pressed, home-grown, all-natural, beautiful meal.

Mom-friend #4 is homeschool supermom! She has pictures of lapbooks, timelines, food projects, pet projects, and a house full of smiling, well-learned faces. She seems to start school on time every day, and keep the house neat as a pin.

The next friend just finished making pot-holders for Christmas gifts… mug cozies, a Queen-sized quilt, and oh yes, matching church dresses for her daughters.


Sometimes being “connected” isn’t so great. When you wake up grumpy, and so do the kids. When you feed the kids chicken nuggets again. When your hair is in a ponytail… again. When the baby woke up before you could read your Bible… again. It can be so frustrating to look at all those supermom-friends and compare yourself. But God’s Word has something to say to us:

“For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.” II Corinthians 10:12

If we compare ourselves to other moms, we will surely feel like failures. Nobody can be perfect all the time, or even much of the time. What you don’t see is that the day before that beautiful 6-course meal, hot dogs was the feast. Right after all the amazing home school projects, a battle of the wills was waged, and mother and daughter ended up in tears. We all put our best foot forward when it comes to the public eye. But if we use other moms’ “successes” as our pattern, we are being unwise. God and His Word are to be our pattern, our Guide, and our emergency manual.

When there are clear commandments in the Bible, there is no room to wiggle. None! But on many of today’s hot-topic parenting issues… organic, vaccinations, cloth diapers, breastfeeding, preschool, potty-training, etc., there is no right or wrong. Sometimes you just have to do the best you can, and pray for God’s grace and peace. But don’t compare your self! Don’t look around, Dear Mom… look up!

“For not he that commendeth himself is approved, but whom the Lord commendeth.” II Corinthians 10:18

If Jesus says, “You have been a good mom today. You have loved your children, by My grace today,” then you are a success! There is such peace and freedom when you stop looking at all the other moms, and let God be the One who decides if you are a good mom.

❤ Joy


One thought on “Comparing Moms

  1. Thank you for giving me some much-needed perspective today.
    God’s Blessings!!

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