Of all the days of the week, Tuesday is probably my least favorite day. Why? It is the one day out of the work week when my hubby doesn’t come home for lunch. He is usually only home for 30 minutes, but even in just 30 minutes, he makes such a difference in my day, and in our children’s day. When he is home we usually share with Daddy how our morning has gone, which for the kids involves playing and having our school time, and for Mommy it means laundry, keeping an active 2-year-old boy from eating cat food or playing in the toilet, and teaching during school time.
This is our first year of homeschooling. Our oldest is in K5 and our next oldest is in K4.
Even in the short time our family has been homeschooling, the Lord has taught me so much. I am so thankful for His patience with me as I’m learning these lessons over and OVER again.
A few things I’m learning:
1. Be flexible. I’m a pretty organized person, so I don’t like to differ from a schedule. Homeschooling (and motherhood in general) has definitely taught me to not be ruled by a schedule but by the needs of one or more of my children on that particular day. It may mean changing the setting (room) of where we are doing school or just taking a break from school to address a heart attitude.
2. School is not limited to the pages of our curriculum. The most valuable lessons I will teach my children on any given day do not come from our lesson plans. The most important textbook I can use, and must use in light of eternity, is God’s Holy Word. Someday all my children will be able to read and to count and do all things considered important academically, but if they don’t learn about our Creator God and His redemptive plan in sending His Son, Jesus Christ, to the cross to pay for the sins of the whole world, then I have failed in teaching them what is truly important. Also, are my children seeing in me daily examples of what to do when things don’t go as planned? Am I being patient, using soft words, having an attitude of thankfulness and showing Christ’s love in my actions and reactions? A missionary’s wife that came to our church recently talked about not looking at situations in life as interruptions, but as opportunities to teach God’s truth. This has really helped change my perspective when things don’t go as I would have planned.
“And these words, which I command these this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”
Deuteronomy 6: 6-7
3. It is because of God’s enabling power that I am able to homeschool my children. So many days we have come to the school portion of our day, and truthfully, my heart has not been in it. What we started with great excitement in August, somewhere along the line has fizzled out. I need God’s constant reminder that His strength is perfect in my weakness. We pray before we being school each day. It seems like I can always tell when I fail to start this way. Even on our most discouraging days when it seems that no one wants to pay attention or work together to get something done, God can still help me to find joy just by doing what He wants me to do.
“Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in Thy presence is fulness of joy; at Thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.”
4. Staying in touch with other homeschooling moms has been a great source for advice and encouragement. I am so blessed to know several other homeschooling moms. All of them have been a blessing to me at one time or another. It helps so much to know moms who have “been there, done that” so that I may reap their advice. Many times the encouraging words of another homeschooling mom have been used by God to turn my day around. I pray that God can use me to be an encouragement to other homeschooling moms someday as the ladies who God has put into my life have been to me.
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety.”
A couple of these ladies have shared some encouraging thoughts with me that I would like to share with you:
“Something that I actually read in a blog recently has been a huge encouragement to me. It was a reminder from Deut. 6 that the only “curriculum” that the Bible requires parents to teach their children is to fear God and keep His commandments. It’s so easy to get caught up in comparing what you’re teaching (or what body of knowledge your children have) to others. While I believe we have a responsibility to teach our children certain things in order to function in society and be used of God, the standard I should be comparing my homeschooling to is Deut. 6 and similar verses/concepts in Scripture. This was an encouragement to me again today as we have had so much sickness in our house and business with purchasing a new home over the last few weeks. It has made school very difficult and I start to get very discouraged. But through Deut. 6 I’m reminded that my kids are watching and learning from my reactions to all of the sickness and stress. The academics can wait until another day when we’re sick. But the discipling cannot.” – Rebekah G.