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What Godly Women Can Do to Encourage the Pastor’s Wife

Since my husband and I started deputation I have had the opportunity to meet many pastor’s wives. My desire is to be a friend to each pastor’s wife I meet. To be honest, the Lord has impressed upon my heart to use our pre-field ministry as a time to minister to each one. I’m using this time to learn from the ladies God places in my life and also encourage each one. No two are the same, but they all have one thing in common – they are married to a pastor. Often the position of the pastor’s wife can be lonely. When I encourage the pastor’s wife, I’m encouraging the pastor, which in turn will help the entire church. Keeping the pastor’s wife encouraged is very important! Before I started deputation I purposed in my heart to ask each pastor’s wife for advice. Last week I met a pastor’s wife whose husband had pastored the same church for 57 years! Her advice was this, “A pastor’s wife is just that – his wife. The apostrophe and “s” means you belong to him.” I love that! I never heard anyone say it like that before and it made an impression on my heart. 2013-06-02 20.18.10

I was given this practical list of ways to encourage our pastor’s wives when I was in college. I hope this will help and encourage us to do our part to bless these sweet ladies God has put into our lives.

  1. Write notes of encouragement.
  2. Love and encourage her children.
  3. Pray daily for her.
  4. Tell her what a blessing she is to you.
  5. Speak kindly when you see her.
  6. Teach your children to love her.
  7. Serve in your church with enthusiasm when she calls on you.
  8. Be faithful to services and special meetings.
  9. Bring others to church with you and introduce them to her.
  10. Have a forgiving spirit – you disrupt the work of God when you don’t. Matthew 6:14-15
  11. Realize that she is not a perfect woman. John 8:7
  12. Never criticize her, her husband, or family. Proverbs 6:19 “He that soweth discord…”
  13. Choose the right time to talk to her about problems – not before a service.
  14. Remember special occasions in her life – birthday, anniversary.
  15. Tell her you love her regularly.
  16. Never go to her in anger. Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turneth away wrath…”
  17. Be her friend.
  18. Guard your personal devotional life.
  19. Never assume that she knows everything about certain situations (those who are sick, new baby, etc.)
  20. Try not to tell her things that will discourage her.
  21. Be considerate of her time. * Remember there is only one of her
  22. Don’t call her on the phone and expect her to spend hours talking to you about unimportant things.
  23. When  she is going through trying times personally – be helpful.


When Disappointment Comes, Twenty Truths to Remember

Last night my family faced a deep disappointment. It is difficult for me to walk in the spirit when my heart is hurting and faced with many unanswered questions.  I know this feeling is one we all encounter at one time or another. I feel this post from my dad’s blog will encourage many of you.

Life is filled with disappointments. People disappoint us. We disappoint ourselves. Circumstances disappoint us. The question isn’t:  “Will disappointments come, but how do we respond in the midst of our disappointments. When we view God in the midst of our disappointments, the disappointment will become a means of a greater love and appreciation for our Great God. Here are twenty truths to remember in the midst of our disappointments.


1. God is on the throne.  “That men may know that thou, whose name alone is Jehovah,art the most high over all the earth.” (Psalm 83:18)

2. God still loves me. “The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.”
(Jeremiah 31:3)

3. God won’t ever leave me, nor forsake me. “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have:for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” (Hebrews 13:5)

4. God is my Shepherd. “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.” (Psalm 23:1-2)

5. God is my Father. “For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.” (Romans 8:15)

6. God hears me when I cry out to Him. “This poor man cried, and the Lord heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles.” (Psalm 34:6)

7. God is my defense. “The Lord is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer;my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.” (Psalm 18:2)

8. God is my guide. “I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.” (Psalm 32:8)

9. God will bring comfort. “Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

10. God is merciful (He forgives me even when others don’t). “It is of the Lord ‘s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:22-23)

11. God has a purpose for my life. “For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” (Philippians 2:13)

12. God makes all things work together for good. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

13. God teaches me new lessons. “And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience; and experience, hope: And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us. (Romans 5:3-5)

14. God gives me a testimony to others (I need to remember my testimony in spite of what others do.) “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

15. God gives me His strength. ”God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. (Psalm 46:1)

16. God gives me His grace in times of great need. ”And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee:for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

 17. God encourages me. “And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters:but David encouraged himself in the Lord his God. (1 Samuel 30:6)

18. Christ is interceding for me. “Wherefore he is able also to save them to the uttermost that come unto God by him, seeing he ever liveth to make intercession for them.” (Hebrews 7:25)

19. Christ is preparing a place for me in heaven. “Let not your heart be troubled:ye believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many mansions:if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.” (John 14:1-3)

20. Christ will take my burden upon Himself because I can’t carry it. “Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.” (Psalm 55:22)

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A Mother’s Prayer

We know there is power in prayer, but sadly many of us fail to pray. We get busy. We are tired. We forget.  Lately the Lord has convicted me of my lack of prayer, specifically for my son. I realize this is a broad topic and much can be said on the matter of praying for your children. I am not an expert and fail so often, but I am doing my best each day to strengthen my prayers for my son. I thought I would share a few ways that have helped me pray for Noah and teach him to pray.

  • I return to Noah’s room after he is asleep at night and kneel next to his bed in prayer. When I hear his soft breathing and feel his smooth skin it moves my heart to pray hard for his God-given life.  I look forward to this sweet time each day. Once I started praying for him in a deeper way I noticed it was changing my heart. I was more patient and consistent with him throughout the day. My motivation for disciplining him was for the right reasons.  My heart was prepared to be mother who could point him to Jesus Christ. Some nights I’m next to his bed for a long time, other nights it’s just for a few moments, but it’s a special time of surrendering him to God each day and praying for his future. I hope one day he will remember his mother’s prayers.
  • My son is only one year old, but I think it’s a great idea to claim a Bible verse for your child each year.  Praying scripture is always good, but having a specific verse to pray each day for them is great. I like the verse I Samuel 12:24 “Only fear the LORD, and serve him in truth with all your heart; for consider how great things he hath done for you.”

c84db97d3164f2583a42eef3535deb6f  (Trace your child’s hand, choose a verse or a some special requests to pray for them throughout the year.)

  • I am in the process of making Noah his own prayer book. Right now he prays, “Dear Jesus, Amen.” I cried the first time I heard him pray – what a blessing! Since he can identify his family and friends in pictures perhaps a prayer journal will help him say a few names in his prayers. Here is a link for an idea how to make a children’s prayer journal,

I want to be a good example of a praying woman for my son. Time spent in prayer is never wasted, and let’s remember there is power in prayer! Abraham Lincoln said, “I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.”

Please leave a comment and let me know how YOU pray for your children or how you teach them to pray.