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The Wail of A Broken Heart

Have you ever heard the wail of a broken heart?

A heart that has been broken by a child? A heart that has been torn by a careless spouse? A heart that has poured out its love, only to be forsaken and scorned by the recipient of so much devotion.

I have heard this wail too many times.

I remember as a young girl, hearing my own mother wail over the sins of her own child.

As a pastor’s wife, a daughter and friend, I have all too often heard this cry.

It is one of intense grief.

It is so full of agony that it bring pain to anyone listening.

This is the wail of the brokenhearted.

Ladies, I am reminded today that SIN HURTS.

It doesn’t just hurt the sinner, it hurts all those around her.

You see the hurt in the child’s face when she talks about her parent’s divorce. If the only man in her life who should naturally love her, can leave her, then will any other man be willing to stay?

You hear the sob of a mother who has been shamed by the sin of her child.

You can’t fathom the brokenness of a young beautiful woman being kicked out of her home when pregnant, because her husband wants to bring his new girlfriend home.

But these people aren’t the only ones hurting. There were also siblings, children, friends, and pastors that surround these situations and are hurt too.

We MAY think we can control our sin habit. You may think that you are just having a little fun. You may think that you are in control, but that SIN is really in control.  One day you’ll wake up and realize that it’s killing you as well as all those around you.

Sin is evil.

It’s vile.

It will take you farther than you ever thought you would go and deeper than you wanted to go.

I have heard the wails. I have seen the heartbreak.

So please, please PLEEEEEEASE! Wake up!!!!!!!!! It’s not something to joke around about. It’s not a small little little thing. Sin will never be controlled!  Anything that God says NO to, SAY NO to, louder!!!  Sin is not cute and it’s definitely not attractive. It’s disgusting!

Come back to God!  He is waiting to wash you. He is waiting to heal you and the hearts you have broken. If you are still breathing, then God can cleanse you and heal your loved ones. Come before its too late! …because, dear one, one day, it WILL be too late. – Joy

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Update on Joy’s Journey

The last time I wrote, I was nearly a month away from having our precious baby. We had chosen to not find out the gender, and as you may remember, this baby had been a “faith baby”. Now, our precious Asher is over 3 months old. He was born at the beginning of December and has grown into a chubby little cherub. My heart is full, so very full. If you haven’t read about our journey, please read my previous blog post. God had lead us on a journey and, in the end, birthed us a beautiful present.

I just have to stop and praise God for all the extra blessings He has given us in this little boy. Asher has been such a treasure to our family. He is so happy and completely “chill”. It’s like he has been a part of our family for years. In fact, a good friend of mine said it best. “If we never had him, we would have felt his absence.” We would have missed him if he was never a part of our lives.

The journey was bumpy but God put springs in our wagon. I say all this to encourage another mama in her journey. I have NO IDEA what God has in store for you, but, hang in there, sweet lady!

It’s hard! I get it!

It’s painful. The world seems dark. You can’t seem to see any light.

…but GOD!

Yes, mama!

…BUT GOD!!!!

He has something so beautiful, so happy, so delightful, if you can just place your trust in Him and His ways.

Rejoicing,

Joy


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Seasons

Let’s just be real. Who actually enjoys pregnancy and birth?

Ok, so maybe you were the glowing mom-to-be with a ‘perfect” pregnancy. Please don’t tell me about it; I might just go throw up again. 🙂 But for me, pregnancy is difficult and birth….well, I’m not sure ANY ONE on this planet could possible enjoy the pain and travail that comes in those hours of labor (hence. the word “labor”).

Birthing a baby is one of the hardest things a woman may EVER have to go through, but when that baby has been delivered, all negative thoughts vanish and it’s one of the most glorious of moments. As you cuddle that sweet baby on your chest, you feel that it was worth it all.

The process, however, was difficult–9 months of your body rebelling and refusing to allow you comfort and of sleepless nights and, then, the finale, birth.

YET, mamas, do you realize this is just a season. This is a season of 9 months and then it’s over (….and then you really have no sleep). …but seriously, it is a SHORT season that births a BEAUTIFUL gift from God.

Psalms 30:5b says “…weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning.”

Seasons come and go. Seasons change. Some seasons bring hurricanes, storms and power outages and other seasons bring crisp fall leaves, cozy fires and hot apple cider. Sometimes the same season can bring both.

In Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 it says, To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace

There are seasons of endless laundry and dirty dishes.  Too quickly follows the season of elderly widowhood–less laundry and no dishes, but also an empty table.

There are seasons of diapers and doctor visits. There are seasons of tantruming toddlers screaming “NO!” and sullen teenage mood swings. There are seasons of singlehood, honeymooning, childlessness, full quivers and empty nesters.

I’m not sure what season you’re in, but I wanted to encourage you to embrace it.

We are given today and this current season of life. What are we going to do with it? Are we going to mope about our busy schedules, our sleepless nights, our empty houses or empty dreams?

Remember, dear mama, that EVERY season brings a testing to our faith. 1 Timothy 6 says, “Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses.”

Let’s live today in the reality of eternity. Enjoy the blessings that God has given in this season and embrace the opportunities for the gospel. Every day is a chance to be the hands and feet of Jesus, to your family, to your neighbors and to all those around you.

If you are childless, you can become a mother to children around you. If you are an empty nester, pour yourself into a young mom, giving her wisdom and strength for her journey. If you have a full quiver, pour into your children the gospel and teach them to, in turn, pour the gospel into others.

We have a choice in every season, to see the blizzard and power outage OR to see the warm blankets, the candles, the comfortable, cozy home, and the fun memories being made.

Philippians 4:11 says “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”

Today is the day that the Lord has made. This season is the season that God has given me. I will rejoice and be glad in it.

Rejoicing,

Joy