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my “to-do” list… and yours

Today I am over on my own blog… sharing a thought that is dear to my heart.

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It is overwhelming. This day-to-day of being a wife and mother, a sister and daughter, a friend, a mentor.

There is pressure from the world to do-all, be-all, have-all…. and if you don’t… well, I won’t go there.

There is pressure from within ourselves, and sometimes even from within our circle of friends, to do-it-right, to-make-it-look-good… and if there’s a crack in that mirage you’re selling to the public, the whole thing comes crashing down one day.

But do you know where none of that pressure originates? ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

Please join me over there to read the rest!


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Whose honour will cause rejoicing?

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. Proverbs 31:25

What do people see when they look at me?

According to this, I should be desirous of people not even noticing whether I wear silk and purple. [Proverbs 31:22]
If people see strength and honor…. then I will one day rejoice.
But…. do I want people to think that *I* am a “strong woman”? Do I want people to talk about *my* honor?
purple daisiesI have recently discovered a love of not just fixing my hair nicely but of decorating it. hehe—a little flower clip just makes me feel a little dressed up, even if I’m wearing denim and a T. And since most days my “mommy-hairdo” is a pony… my few flower clips get plenty of use!! :)And I have even had quite a few people comment on how cute it looks…

But that is NOT what I want people to remember when they think of who I am!

I want them to remember

strength

and

honour

But, even more specifically, I want people to think of God’s strength in my life

and God’s name being honored!

And I’m sure that most of you reading this would desire the same…

But HOW does HIS strength get noticed?

How can we wear this honor?

Each person’s journey will look different on the outside, but inside—that’s where the rubber meets the road, so to speak.

Do I take ANY time to speak to Him each day?

The days I do pray don’t actually always run smoothly, but **I am not a basket case** in the midst of the chaos!

The days I don’t… well, I try not to think of those days. Even the GOOD seems off on those days! HA

Am I open to correction? From the hubby, my preacher, SS teacher, even my children?

If not, I will not change— and change requires strength, which in turn creates more strength

This learning and growing and repeating is hard stuff.

It REQUIRES His strength.

pink flowers

Does my mouth open in criticism of those in the ministry? Do people find my “personality” hard to work with?

If so, I am not wearing this honour that brings rejoicing.

This honour requires a humble spirit {NOT being walked over!}

the hidden man of the heart… a meek and quiet spirit… in the sight of God of great price. I Peter 3:4

This honour requires me to allow HIM to take control of my assertiveness.

As a woman, this can be difficult! but THAT is what a quiet spirit IS. It’s not about never talking or sitting in a corner while others DO things… but getting involved and allowing others to have control of a situation and not having a point of view that says “My way or the highway, people!”

So, this is something I have been learning… hopefully growing in… and will need to repeat regularly!

And maybe one day I will rejoice …in time to come… that my life brought Him honour and used His strength!!


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wearing Daddy’s shoes

wearing daddys shoesWith Father’s Day just behind us, I was looking through some photos and found the one above….

My little man just turned 2 {on our 10th anniversary!}.

And he LOVES his Daddy!!!

And his Daddy IS pretty awesome. {yes, I am biased…. :)}

And some day… my little man will be a LOT like his Daddy.

Now, this could become a post TO Dads. But in my observations of families around me, I have found that the Moms have this crazy influence over what children think of their Dads.

So, I just want to say a word of encouragement to all Moms, everywhere….

PRAISE your husbands!!

…to your boys!

Let your boy know when something Daddy did was “so sweet” or “kind” or “good.”

And to your little girls too!

You want your little girl to know the right kind of man when she meets him someday!

And sometimes we should even do  this when our husbands can hear us! 🙂

There will always be something out there in other people, our husbands included, that could annoy us…. {I read this blog post that basically just hits that nail on the head}.

But if we are always focusing on being annoyed, we are teaching our children to also focus what annoys them.

And then we begin raising children who cannot find gratefulness. They LOOK for something wrong and have complaining attitudes.

If we want our boys to learn the GOOD things our husbands do, then we need to be the one to point it out to them!

If we want our girls to know what the good things are that they should look for in men, we need to tell them! And start with their Daddy.

[Does your husband go to work each day to provide for your family?]

Tell your children… “I am so thankful your Daddy loves us enough to work so we can buy food, have a car… “

[Does your husband play with the kids?]

Tell your children… “I love to see your Daddy play with you!”

[Does your husband ever keep the children while you go out… shopping or just to be alone?]

Tell your children… “Your Daddy is so nice to Mommy to let me have some quiet time sometimes.”

Someday, your little boy will already BE a lot like his Daddy; but as Mommy, you and I have a big say in WHAT traits of his Daddy stand out.

And someday, your little girl will look for character traits that resemble her Daddy in a man of her own .. and she will either look for the good you have pointed out… or not.

So, let’s find something about our husbands to PRAISE today–and tomorrow–and see if it doesn’t change the atmosphere in our homes… and the attitudes of our children.

Blessings… {Tascha}

[just a note: I realize there are some seriously dysfunctional families out there. If this is your situation, I pray you find the help you need-which can only come from Jesus working in lives! This post is not meant to belittle the problems you face!]