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wearing Daddy’s shoes

wearing daddys shoesWith Father’s Day just behind us, I was looking through some photos and found the one above….

My little man just turned 2 {on our 10th anniversary!}.

And he LOVES his Daddy!!!

And his Daddy IS pretty awesome. {yes, I am biased…. :)}

And some day… my little man will be a LOT like his Daddy.

Now, this could become a post TO Dads. But in my observations of families around me, I have found that the Moms have this crazy influence over what children think of their Dads.

So, I just want to say a word of encouragement to all Moms, everywhere….

PRAISE your husbands!!

…to your boys!

Let your boy know when something Daddy did was “so sweet” or “kind” or “good.”

And to your little girls too!

You want your little girl to know the right kind of man when she meets him someday!

And sometimes we should even do  this when our husbands can hear us! 🙂

There will always be something out there in other people, our husbands included, that could annoy us…. {I read this blog post that basically just hits that nail on the head}.

But if we are always focusing on being annoyed, we are teaching our children to also focus what annoys them.

And then we begin raising children who cannot find gratefulness. They LOOK for something wrong and have complaining attitudes.

If we want our boys to learn the GOOD things our husbands do, then we need to be the one to point it out to them!

If we want our girls to know what the good things are that they should look for in men, we need to tell them! And start with their Daddy.

[Does your husband go to work each day to provide for your family?]

Tell your children… “I am so thankful your Daddy loves us enough to work so we can buy food, have a car… “

[Does your husband play with the kids?]

Tell your children… “I love to see your Daddy play with you!”

[Does your husband ever keep the children while you go out… shopping or just to be alone?]

Tell your children… “Your Daddy is so nice to Mommy to let me have some quiet time sometimes.”

Someday, your little boy will already BE a lot like his Daddy; but as Mommy, you and I have a big say in WHAT traits of his Daddy stand out.

And someday, your little girl will look for character traits that resemble her Daddy in a man of her own .. and she will either look for the good you have pointed out… or not.

So, let’s find something about our husbands to PRAISE today–and tomorrow–and see if it doesn’t change the atmosphere in our homes… and the attitudes of our children.

Blessings… {Tascha}

[just a note: I realize there are some seriously dysfunctional families out there. If this is your situation, I pray you find the help you need-which can only come from Jesus working in lives! This post is not meant to belittle the problems you face!]
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Mom, When Is Dad Coming Home?

JP-Dad notes on door “Mom, when is Dad coming home?” asked my six year old son.

“Not till supper time,” I replied.

“Where is he?”

“He’s at work- like he is everyday.”

“Mom, where’s the tape?”

“In the cabinet,” I say, without asking what for. My little boys have lots of uses for tape, if they can get their hands on it.

“Mom, when is it gonna’ be supper time?”

“Soon!” I answer again, wondering why the questions.

Our mail comes late in the afternoon, and I went to the road to check the mail. As I walked back to the house, I noticed my front door had two additions to it. As I got closer, it was two picture notes drawn for my husband- awaiting him when he would arrive home. Now, I knew the reason for the questions about his arrival time. My son had spent his time and energy to show love to his daddy, and he could hardly wait for him to see the notes and be pleased. My realization of this made my heart smile, and I couldn’t wait till my husband got home either to get the notes.

A few thoughts came to me from this little moment in life.

  • Children have a built-in desire to please their dads.
  • Children feel secure when dads acknowledge their gifts and needs.
  • Children need dads.
  • Children need time with their dads.
  • Moms can influence children toward their daddy or away from him.
  • Moms can help dads know when a child may need a little more of his attention.
  • Little acts of kindness can be the greatest highlight of another’s day.
  • Not all children have dads who come home.

When I was a child, I remember the feeling of security when my dad got home from work. If there was a hurricane, dad would know what to do. If we were driving on long trips to Texas, I could sleep because I trusted my dad to know the route and keep us safe on the road. If there was a need, I didn’t worry about it. Dad would know best if we needed something or if we didn’t. When I would ask my mom what time my dad was coming home from work, she could tell me a time without hesitation.

While I am grateful that I have a dad who loves me, and my children have a dad who loves them, there are many moms today who must answer the question “When is dad coming home?” with a different answer. “I don’t know when he’s coming home.” Some must answer, “I don’t know if he’s coming home.” Some answer, “He is not ever coming home.”

As we celebrate the God-designed institution of marriage and family and even as we struggle in our humanity in it, enter the world of a single mom. Notice a child who must strain through Father’s Day because it just isn’t a celebration. How can you encourage a child? If you know a mom who is single at this time for whatever reason, ask the Lord to help you know how to be a blessing to her and her child/children. I have some friends who have been placed in this situation, and they are such a blessing to me. They keep going. They know God – they have had to get close to Him.

No matter where you find yourself as a woman, you can have a relationship with a perfect Father – God. Do you know Him? Do you know He loves you? Do you know He knows everything about you? { how you are created, how you feel, what you face in your life} “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” -John 3:16

But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on His name.” -John 1:12

♥ Jeri Lynn