We hear many speak of “Super Moms” these days! Recently, as I pushed my cart out of my favorite grocery store, feeling like a very “UN-SUPER” Mom, I saw this van! I did a double-take. It was a white van with silver lettering! Then, questions flooded my mind. Did her children put this on her van? Did her husband? Did her friend? Did she do it herself? Or was I seeing things? Did God just have that van sitting right there to send me affirmation that He sees my heart and efforts as a mother? I mean… He did know my heart and efforts that no one else knew at that particular hour. It certainly made me stop, think, and smile.
Google’s definition of “super” as an adjective is: “very good or pleasant; excellent.” Google’s synonyms for “super” include these: “excellent, superb, superlative, first-class, outstanding, marvelous, magnificent, wonderful, splendid, glorious, great, fantastic, fabulous, terrific, ace, divine, A1, smashing, brilliant, superfine etc…” Of course, after defining this title, what mom wouldn’t want to be recognized as a SUPER MOM?
Assuming I am a normal mom, there are some days that life goes smoothly and being mom is glorious. More often than not, there are days that being “Super Mom” is a fictitious sport that people speak of. We know how a super mom is defined, but how do we become one?
One way to ensure failure in becoming a super mom is comparison. We are surrounded by mothers everywhere we turn. After all, birthing and mothering was designed by God! What a privilege He gave to women. Every mother is different in some area. No two mothers are alike. Some are birth mothers, adoptive mothers, foster mothers, single mothers, or stepmothers. Some are bright and carefree while others are meditative and melancholy. Some are physically strong, and some are frail. Some have Godly support in family members and friends; some have none. Some have one child; some have many. Some are financially stable; some live from hand to mouth. Some homeschool their children; some choose private or public education. Some have resources and knowledge to live very healthy lifestyles; others do not. The differences could go on and on. If I compare myself to any other mother, there will be at least one factor that is variable which negates the one-size-fits-all formula to become that “Super Mom.”
The only way I know to be a super mom on any given day is to live according to God’s way for my life. With a prayerful heart, I can let His Words direct me. Dependence on the Holy Spirit is a must to help me make decisions every moment of the day. I am called on to decide on instruction, discipline, entertainment, activities, meals, chores, schedule, ministry opportunites, etc… I will sometimes have to say no to some activities that are good in order to do what God has clearly impressed on me to do. Though I like to please others, my choices will not always match up to the choices of others. Ultimately, I am personally accountable to God for my actions and for my reactions. I will never be perfect as a mother or as a human being, for I am a sinner who will battle my flesh until I get Home to Heaven. Yet, I do feel God makes a way for us to strive for excellence in our calling as mothers. With so many voices screaming for me to do this or that in order to be superfine, it is much simpler to follow one Voice – the voice of the God Who made me who I am, with my individual gifts, idiosyncrasies, strengths and weaknesses. He knows my name. He sees my heart. Likewise, He knows the same about the people He’s entrusted to my care. He knows the circumstances He’s allowed in my life to conform me to His image. He knows my future. And He knows your name. He sees your heart. He knows the people He’s entrusted to your care. He knows every detail of your circumstances. He knows your future. He is an amazing God.
Below are some verses that are helpful reminders to me. I cannot be a Super Mom or a Super Anything unless I deliberately choose His power, His Spirit, His love, His wisdom, and His Word over my good intentions or my best performances.
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
II Corinthians 10:5 “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;”
Titus 2:3-5 “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Romans 15:13 “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.”
Enter His presence, and tap into His power available to all believers. We are nothing without Him. Be a Mom with a super God!
Blessings, Jeri Lynn