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My Favorite Job

As a child, when I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew-up, I would usually say “I want to be a mommy.”  Or a “cash register”–meaning I wanted to be a cashier.   🙂

For as long as I can remember, I just wanted to have my own family and my own babies and to take care of them. That desire was always there….but it got repressed.

When I was in high school, I got a piece of mail that advertised adoption.  The letter informed me that “age wasn’t a problem”.  (Of course, they meant that you could adopt even if you were older).   I took it to mean that I could adopt while I was in high school.   Ask my mom–I had it all worked out.  I was going to adopt a baby (while I was in high school).

I was soooooo upset at her that she wouldn’t even consider it.

Yes, I was that child.  I loved kids, especially babies.

I was so happy when my first nephew arrived.  I couldn’t wait until I had my own.

However, I also realized that children came with a husband and, after a few rocky relationships, I decided I would just be family-less.  Thus, that desire got pushed down farther and farther.

Those growing-up years were really full.  I volunteered at the library, was a Candy Stripper at the local hospital and worked as a shampoo girl at a hair salon.  I played violin in a county orchestra.  I had TONS OF FRIENDS, lots of parties.   I went to college, working as a telemarketer (don’t hold that against me) and as a secretary for that college.  I went to Europe three times and spent one summer in Africa.  I coordinated a ministry team that traveled around the States.  I counseled teenagers at a Christian camp four different summers and then, after graduation, became a school teacher.  Really, I had a FULL life.

During that whole time, my parents prayed for me.  They prayed that I would find a friend whom I could love as my future husband.  They prayed for that family I had shut out of my mind and heart.

To cut the story short, my husband and I met, were friends for three years before we knew we were mIMG_3257eant for each other, got married, had baby #1 two years later and then, another two years later, had baby #2.

That was a lot of introduction to say this:  In all my years, in all my jobs, in all the craziness of my life, I have NEVER had such an amazing job.  I LOVE being a mommy.  THIS is my favorite job.

I love that God gave me my two favorite kids to be MY KIDS.

I love the funny conversations my son and I have.

I love the giggles and kisses I get from my daughter.

I love coloring with my son.

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I love stomping in puddles with my boy when it rains.

I love making my daughter giggle.

I love the way my daughter chatters.

I love dressing my daughter up in bows and frills.

I love our walks.

I love the way our family hangs out together.

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I’m sure it helps that I have an absolutely amazing husband who is also called “Daddy”

I don’t know where you are in life, but I want to encourage you to think about something.  God created most of us to be help-meets, to be wives and mothers.  There is no 2nd place or shame in that.  Don’t let the world tell you that.  We are our sons’ first love.  We are our daughters’ first best-friend. We have the best job out there. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Is it easy?  No.

Is it the hardest job I’ve ever had?  Yes, probably.

Is it sooo worth it? YES!

Let my husband handle the workplace, the drama and stress.  Give me the little fingers and toes.  Give me the giggles and hugs. We are creating the next generation. What a privilege!

Give me mommy-hood because the best bonuses come in X’s and O’s.


Joy T.

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The Top Priority in 2015

I love this time of year! There are special things about every season, every holiday. But New Year’s Day feels so wonderful! A brand new start. Somehow, all the wrongs of the past year seem to magically erase as grace gives us a blank slate to write the new year on.

If you know me, you know I love lists, and I love paper! My New Year’s Resolution lists are usually long and detailed. Every area of my life needs a face-lift. My devotional life, my weight, my home schooling efforts, my music, my wife-life, finances, my cooking, my reading, church projects and classes, new things I want to do with my children, etc. I usually drown in these lists, but every year I manage to single out one or two that matter most to me, and figure out ways to make them work.

So often in my life, I evaluate, reevaluate, make lists, and try to better myself. I get caught up in to-do lists, and this program, and that, another Bible reading schedule, another cleaning schedule, new ideas for my kids, another type of menu. It makes me crazy!

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What does God’s Word say? A few things stand out in my mind as being “most important, top priority” on God’s list, and here they are:

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33


“And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.” Mark 12:30

They’re kind of the same, aren’t they? Jesus is to be first, and all other things fall into place. If we give Him top priority, we will somehow become the things that matter to Him. Being a godly mother will come more naturally if we are truly seeking Him first, and loving Him more than anyone else. Our frustrations with the messy house will lessen as we become more like Christ, realizing our relationships are more important than our images. Our stress of feeling inadequate, or not-as-good as other moms will vanish, as we love Christ, and His love for us holds us, and is enough to love our children through us.

This year, let’s purpose to seek Him first, and love Him with all our hearts, souls, minds, and strength.

It’s top priority!

❤ Joy

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9 Ideas for Adding a Little “Magic” to Christmas!

Christmas is coming!! I know it’s not even Thanksgiving yet, but I really like to plan ahead. Since the Christmas season begins as soon as the Thanksgiving meal ends, it’s time to plan ahead!

If you’re like me, you make lots of plans to make this an extra special day, then before you know it, it’s here! You haven’t had time to prepare everything. Supplies should have been bought last week! But you’re too busy to go to the store today! You should’ve started the “12 Days” 3 days ago! You know how it goes… church dinners, family get-togethers, school activities, parades, shopping, cooking! Where do you begin? Where does it all end? You’re so tired you can hardly enjoy the season!


I’ve been looking on pinterest for some great (and fairly simple) ideas to start some new traditions for our family. I wanted to find some things that were fun and “magical” but also, things that would point our children to the Savior, and the true reason we celebrate this season! So, I want to share a few of those ideas with you!

1. Clear all unnecessary items from your calendar! Easier said than done, right? But seriously, I teach piano, but I have already wrapped it up for the year. Those few extra weeks off won’t hurt my students, and it frees up two afternoons EVERY week {plus all that cleaning – the lessons are in my living room}! Say “no” to things that are unimportant. Can that dinner with friends wait until after Christmas? Do you have to paint the bathroom right now? You can volunteer at the library in January. If it can wait, then let it wait. That way, you will have all the extra time you want to make Christmas special!


2. Have a Christmas Family Brunch. This one is simple, and we’ve already been doing it for a few years. We have the Boyer Christmas Brunch after we open our gifts. We live away from our families and are often on the road for Christmas Day. But on the day we have our “Christmas’ we do this. I have a pretty extensive menu (although it sure doesn’t look like it in the picture!), but I want to keep it pretty much the same every year. We have a hashbrown casserole. (This is the basic recipe except I use cream of chicken instead of cream of mushroom – also you can put it together the day before and just throw it in the oven that morning.) And the other “must-have” is Carrot Cake Cream Cheese Muffins. These are SO yum, and take a little bit of time to make, and that makes it more special! I shared the recipe here. (They’re still good if made the day before.) Besides that, we usually have some ham, biscuits, and sometimes a marshmallow-type salad like this, and always Sparkling Juice. A few rare treats really make this time memorable!


3. Make a Christmas Adventure Box. This one looks great, and I’m so excited to do it! It starts December 1st, and goes through Christmas. Each night, the children open the special “box”, in which you have already placed a wrapped object. This object is then used to tell a part of the Christmas story. Other topics are covered too, such as prayer, thankfulness, the legend of the Candy Cane, and others. I love the spiritual focus, wrapped in complete simplicity. And you could always go through the list (like I’m going to do)and use just 10 or 12 ideas instead of 25 days!


4. Go to a Christmas parade. I have already looked up the ones in our area so we don’t miss them! So check our your local paper or google it, like I did.

5. Make a pocket calendar. I’m going to do it this year. There are so many cute ones on the market, but I’m cheap! So, I’m going to take a beautiful Christmasy ribbon and add 25 marked clothes pins to it. Then I’ll grab a cute little felt bag (or a gift bag) to move across the ribbon and add little treats for my kids each morning. Here are some more ideas for diy pocket calendars.


6. The Christmas Book Basket. You may have seen this idea going around facebook and pinterest the last few months like I did. I bit, and couldn’t resist the simplicity and the cuteness. Read a Christmas book to your children each night! You can get a basket to sit by your tree or couch. Wrap 24 books and place inside the basket. Let your children take turns choosing one. Then grab some hot chocolate, a cozy blanket and read that book. This website has a lot of Christmas books that are tried and true. They are a mix of secular and spiritual. I ordered several from the library already, because remember, I’m cheap!


7. The Elf on the Shelf “idea.” You’ve seen it everywhere! It’s so cute, that little elf! But the story is that he is Santa’s helper, and he reports to Santa every night. So each morning, you will find him in a different spot. It’s so cute! But at the same time, my husband and I just aren’t comfortable doing it. So, here are a few variations. Hide a cute little Christmas-type figurine somewhere in your house each night after the kids are in bed (like a snowman). Then when the children find him in the morning, he can have a special treat for them. Or variation #2 that I like – have a nativity scene in your home, but have it empty. Let Mary and Joseph travel around your house until they arrive at the stable on Christmas Eve. Then in the morning, you can read the Christmas story to them and add baby Jesus, and the shepherds, wise men and animals. So sweet! And it’s just as fun!


8. Buy a new Christmas ornament for each member of your family. We have done this every year for our children, and for ourselves. Each year, we try to think of one of the major events or highlights of that year. For instance, we bought an ornament of the Alamo the year my husband and I took a trip to San Antonio for our anniversary! This year we are going to try to find a church, since my husband became a pastor this year. We also try to choose ones for our children that shows what they’re “into” that year.


9. Special Bible reading. I also found this awesome idea! But I have so many other ideas, I’m not sure if we will have time to do it. But, this is the link for a special Bible reading chart that takes you through the prophecy of the coming Messiah, all the way to His birth, and also passages on how Christ is supreme and deserves our worship and praise. There are also many other options out there for Family Christmas Bibles, and booklets. This is a great idea! You could also combine it with #3!

So, there they are! Share your favorite Christmas traditions (only if they’re simple, please!) in the comments below.

❤ Joy