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Happy Mom’s Day

Mother’s Day is upon us and what a special day it is!  It’s a day to celebrate the sacrificial work that mamas perform, day in and day out.

Mamas are special!  I praise the Lord that He gave me an extra special one. She has been my mentor, my teacher, my nurse, and now my friend. Of course, I had no idea how truly amazing she was until I had my own children. But now I know and now I celebrate her…AND I want to celebrate YOU!,

Today, I want to celebrate you moms, because, let’s just be real, motherhood is hard.

B.C. (Before Children), we were able to take a sick day. If I was not feeling well, I just simply called into school or into the office and took the day off. Now, it’s a decision between lying in bed while the little ones jump around me and on me. OR crawling out of bed and limping around the house trying to feed and entertain them without passing out.

B.C. (Before Children), date nights were not needed because I had my spouse all to myself whenever I wanted. We went out about once a week and didn’t even consider it a date. Now… it’s a process. From getting a babysitter to preparing for the babysitter to getting cute-ified (the last thing on the list) …and well, it kinda shows these days.

B.C. (Before Children), I had never been with a family member admitted into the emergency room, let alone 7 times in 2 years, let alone to PICU stays and a surgery. I didn’t know what it meant to truly nurse a “sicky” and lose sleep over and over again until I became a mama.

B.C. (Before Children) – bedtime… DO I NEED TO SAY MORE?!!?!?

B.C (Before Children), after age 3, I thought I would never sleep in a crib again… but then I became a mom and well… you do what you gotta do.

B.C. (Before Children), money went toward the house, food, clothes and savings. (Wait, what is savings again?)  Now, it’s all the above AND lessons, medical bills, school, birthday parties, books, more medical bills…etc.

B.C. (Before Children), my coworkers and I had conversations. Now I am either coaching. (“Stop fighting”, “Are you arguing with me”, “share please”…) or answering 1 of 10,000 questions asked during the space of an hour.” …and let me tell you, I have realized how unintelligent I truly am. Even Google can’t answer some of the questions my son has.

B.C. (Before Children), I traveled, had friends and made plans at the spur of the moment, enjoyed a $5 coffee, had silence, and had days off.

Let’s face it. “Mommy-ing” is rough. It’s A LOT of work and doesn’t come with a lot of praise. It’s full of sleepless nights, empty checkbooks, sick days where you can’t be sick and guilt over decisions you have made. It’s a rough journey at times, with lots of sacrifice.

So from the bottom of my heart and for all the little ones that can not speak up yet, let me say: “Moms, thank you!”

Thank you for doing your best for the sake of your little ones.

Thank you for sacrificing your time, your money, your energy and your body.

Thank you for giving up a good night of sleep to cuddle your sick child.

Thank you for giving up “peace” in order to provide some godly men and women for our next generation.

Thank you for giving up your $5 coffee and your date nights with the girls.

Thank you for the sacrifices you make every single day.

Thank you for carrying that baby even when you felt like you couldn’t one more day.

Thank you for the stretch marks that tell the story of each child your bore.

Thank you for praying diligently for your children even in those dark nights.

Thank you for not giving up on your child. Thank you, moms. Thank you!!!!!!!!! You are special! You are a blessing! You are needed.

Love,

Joy T

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Busy

“So, how have you been?”

“Busy”,  I replied and then went on to list the next 100 things that I needed to finish that week.

I, in turn, asked my friend how she was doing and she replied with the same dialog.

You see, busyness is almost a badge of honor in motherhood.  We identify who we are by what we are doing.

Image result for list… but this is a lie that the devil keeps trying to make us believe.

It is NOT about what we are doing but WHO we are.

I am first and foremost God’s daughter and if I am too busy to spend quality quiet time with Him, then something is terribly out of whack.

I am my husband’s wife.  I am the only one who can Biblically provide for his needs.

I am my children’s mother.  I am the only one who can really truly do this job and do it well.

It is not so much about what we do but who we are.  You see my child runs to me when he gets sick or hungry.  Why?  Because I am his mom.

So with all these responsibilities we can safely assume we will be busy, BUT we often overlook an important gift that God gave us.

Let’s go back to the beginning of Genesis….

Have you ever sat down and really meditated on creation?

We often teach little kids that there were 7 days in creation. Ok, then, what did He create on the 7th day?

Why didn’t God just say He created the world in 6 days?   If that is the way that it was written then we would most likely infer that He was done after the 6th day and that He rested.

Have you wondered why He put the 7th day in the creation story?

What did He create on the 7th day?

He created Sabbath.  Sabbath means peace, tranquility and rest.

He didn’t simply just take a rest.  He created a whole day to rest. He was busy working and then he set up boundaries so that REST was a part of that plan.

If God Almighty, the omniscient, omnipresent Creator of this world decided that rest was important enough to take a whole day for it, then why do we feel we don’t need it?

Why is busyness next to godliness?  Why do we walk around acting like our long list of stuff to do somehow makes us better moms?

Well, first off it doesn’t.  I don’t know about you, but I can be constantly doing and doing. That accomplishes nothing but stress for my kids and family dynamic.  There are days that life is so crazy that my quiet time gets skipped and I am fighting life all day with an empty tank.

Ladies, please let me encourage you to slow down.  You need your rest.  I am not talking about ME-TIME.  I’m talking about family-time.  I’m talking about God-and-you time.  I’m talking about simply relaxing and enjoying people.   I am talking about making cuts in your life so that your family gets more of you.  This doesn’t have to be a special activity.  Just simply being together.

One of my favorite quotes is this:  “Let us be silent that we may hear the whisper of God.”

As the prophet Elijah in 1 Kings 19 learned, God is not always in the storms and the busyness and loudness. Sometimes, He is in the quietness.

If we are not getting the rest and quietness we need, then we are living a crazy lifestyle that God is not a part of.

Ladies, do you want rest?  Do you want peace?

Then make sure to block out a specific time every day to spend with God in His Word.

For me, this is quiet time.  My daughter takes a nap and my son plays quietly.  During that time, I make a hot drink, grab my blanket, a heating pad and my devotions and curl up on the couch.  I place the heating pad on my neck, curl up in the blanket and open the Word of God.  It is such a relaxing time every day; when I get up from that time of rest, the energy that I have is like no other. I am physically relaxing my body as well as spiritually refreshing it.  IT IS POWERFUL!!!!!!

As a pastor’s wife and homeschool-mom with lots of stressors, there is nothing ….NOTHING.…that provides more energy to my broken-down body and mind than that time every day.

We have to learn to say no.

We have to learn to prioritize and create that rest-time.  If God thinks it’s important, then we should too.

One last thing to think about is this.  God CREATED peace.  Rest doesn’t come when I am done with my list.  (Is it ever done?)  Rest comes when you INTENTIONALLY create the time.  If we want Sabbath, peace and tranquility, we must be intentional.

Friends, we must learn to say no and to question our reasons behind what we do.

Let’s make this applicable–ask ourselves some questions.  These are some great questions for your husband and you to work through whenever you get offered new “busyness opportunities”:

  1. How does this activity better our family and or our ministry?
  2. Will this make my family stronger after I am done, or weaker?
  3. What can I take out of my life to create peace?
  4. What do I need to remove to make sure that I am having some refreshing time with God?
  5. Could someone else do this ministry?
  6. How many activities will we allow our family members to be a part of (great discussion to have with your husband about your kids, as well)?
  7. What is the most important ministry goal we have?  Are we staying true to that goal or are we adding other things that we could say “no” to?
  8. Is this what God had in mind for me?
  9. Do I have enough time that is quiet enough that God can speak to me?

I have had these discussions with other moms. Some moms would argue that they are just too busy but I truly believe that in EVERY stage of life, there is time for personal time with God.  God would not give you so much to do that you couldn’t have time to spend with Him.

At the end of the day, we need to ask ourselves:  God created rest on the 7th day, so what can I do to create rest in my home?

Rejoicing,

Joy


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Don’t Forget

How many times have we told ourselves to write down all those cute little things our children say or do?  Sometimes we are lucky if we get their first words jotted down in their baby book! J

When it comes to something cute or funny our child says or does, how many times do we say, “This is something I will never forget!”  only to forget it by the next week, month etc. and we find ourselves asking ourselves or our spouse, “What was the funny thing (your child) did?“

I thought I would take this time to encourage us as mothers to… write it down! All it takes is 30 seconds to capture a memory that will last forever!   You know that cute little thing that your little one always says that makes you laugh or that funny reaction they have  when are in the middle of doing something; write it down!

I know that I have loved, over the past few years, going back and reading again all about those times Ava has done something that I knew I would want to remember.  While I’m reading them, I often find myself saying, “Oh, I forgot about that!J   I am so glad that I had written it down because it brings back such sweet memories that would have been lost – all because I would have forgotten.

I also think to the future; this would be something special I could read with Ava and to my grandchildren about their mom someday!

I plan to do the same thing with Carson.  Although he is not talking a lot at the moment, I have captured memories via video.  There are things that our children do every day that when I stop and watch them, I think, this is something I want to remember one day.  For instance the other day, Carson was drinking some water out of his cup through a straw.  This was one of those moments I wanted to remember.  Strange you say? J   Well, for me, it wasn’t necessarily getting a video of him drinking through a straw  but rather to capture the sweetness of watching his cute little lips as they drank and as he stopped to get a breath before taking another long drink, and then watching his little eyebrows move as he took every sip and his little eyes just looking all around as he drank.

It’s these everyday things that I try to look deeper into and find those moments that will one day be made into precious memories.  So I guess, I would want to encourage you as moms to not let the everyday things slip by for it’s those things that make up our children and it’s those things we will want to look back on and remember our children by.

Just a thought:  if saving precious video clips, make a folder on your computer just for those moments captured and make one for each child and then for recording their sayings, make a journal however you would want to make it whether using a spiral notebook for each child or going all out and scrap booking an album or finding a happy medium like a pretty journal and entitling it something like this:

Words to Remember:

My Journal for Cherishing

(your child’s name)’s

Sweet and Amusing Sayings

Don’t let the memories be forgotten!